The first few days of a relationship are amazing and everybody wishes they remain so till death do the parting shot. But things do not stay the same for long. The fire that kept two lovers warmth in their love life starts running out of oxygen. This is what we call ruts, yes, the elements of a breakup.
Constant arguments about the same issue over and over
In the first three months of any relationship, things tend to be on the right path. The kissing the cuddling and the sexual experience is nothing short of heavenly. But afterward, couples tend to become fond of each other, completing each others’ sentences and all the other things people do when they know each other too much. That is when your partner notices that your snoring behavior is a bit overboard. You get to see the real characters of your partner that you were so blind to the whole time you have been dating. My guess is that love is only blind for a period of three months tops.
If you find yourself in a situation where you and your partner literary argue hours on end about the same thing, then you are in a relationship rut. This is the part where hard decisions must be made if both of you want things to work out. You can handle the situation by taking time off the subject that leads to arguments, whether it involves money or household responsibilities. Keep the subject off for a few days by pushing yourself to engage in those things that both of you love. When you revisit the matter, try to listen to each other but do not necessarily find quick answers to it.
The seemingly infinite daily grind rut
After the big day, the honeymoon phase begins. This is the part where dreams seem to reach their climax for couples. The whole point is ambiguous because not only do partners seem to have the moment of their lifetime during their honeymoon, but they also seem to have the only big moment in their love life. Once the kids start coming through, the household responsibilities, the mortgage payments, endless bills and school fees, all hell break loose. The best solution here is to have some hope that sooner or later, the storm will cease its rage. Start building and comparing wish lists for days to come, which will remind you that all the grind will soon halt once the kids become independent and the debts start settling down.
Sexual rut, the mother of all ruts
They say a normal human being thinks about sex every seven seconds. It is not clear whether it applies across genders, but this is an interesting case. It seems like when two normal lovers get used to each other a lot, the number doubles. It then begins to wildly multiply to hours and days when things are no longer normal. Sexual excitement sometimes seems to fizzle out. The only way couples can restore the sizzle is by participating in more thrilling stuff outside the bedroom like adventures, amusement parks and the like.